Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect.Mark Victor Hanson
When I first started karate as an adult, I was a white belt. I was awkward, and I watched the brown and black belts in my class in awe, feeling so small. My kicks and stances were wobbly next to theirs, and I was jealous of their confidence as they held each move with certainty.
It’s been three years since then, and now I’m a brown belt. After thousands of hours of practice, hard work, and perseverance, I walk into karate with a sureness that would make anyone believe I had all the confidence in the world. And then, it hit me — confidence doesn’t come by wishing for it. It comes by doing.
“Believing in yourself” is a scam
We were all taught from a young age that confidence comes within. “You just gotta believe in yourself!” is what teachers, parents, and friends would say. So, we close our eyes, imagine a wand twirling above our heads, and voila! As we open our eyes, we expect a boost of self-esteem to surge through our veins. And to our disappointment, we feel the same.
And that’s why I believe we were scammed as children.
Doing something long enough will make you confident in it
As much as singers want you to believe that they were born with talent, that’s not the case. Many singers, if you check their old performances, didn’t sound nearly as good as they do today.
The same goes for writers, public speakers, and even doctors. No one wakes up one day and is an expert at what they do. And, whoever tells you that these celebrities knew what they were doing since they could walk is either lying or naïve.
The myth of being born with talent tricks so many of us into thinking that we can’t improve a skill over time. This myth causes so many of us never to sing, dance, or publicly speak in our lifetimes. In other words, we give up before we start.
When you’re confident at one thing, it becomes a domino effect
The point is, having confidence in one thing pours into all other aspects of your life.
If you’re struggling with confidence, try a new skill that you can improve on. For example, if you love makeup, make it a priority to learn something new so you can improve over time. In no time, you’ll feel better about yourself and realize the potential you have as a person.